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Energy Vampires
by Lisa Tarves
The energy, or also known aspsychic, vampire is someone who exists in almost all of our lives. Many of us have more than one of them around. Worse yet, we may not even know they’re there! These vamps continually make us feel physically and emotionally exhausted even with just small interactions.
An energy vampire is a person who feeds off the "life force" of other living creatures. Energy vampires are spiritually or emotionally weak people who, because they are unable to generate their own life force, have to feed off of others. As long as these people are feeding off the positive people around them, they will be saved from the physical and emotional symptoms they naturally experience such as depression, headaches, dizziness, irritability, and anxiety. Unfortunately, an energy vampire’s victim will have all of those problems as a result of the attack, plus the added feeling of being drained and exhausted.
Energy vampires have blocked their connection with the universe. Because of this, they must get energy from somewhere, and they do that through the people around them that are connected to the universe.
Negative people are often labeled as psychic or energy vampires. This is because, like vampires feed of a person’s blood in order to survive, energy vampires feed off the energy of others for their survival.
If you have ever encountered one of these vamps (and most of us have), they most certainly left you feeling drained, tired and lethargic. This type of person is one that no matter what you say while having a conversation with them, or how intensely you try and change their pattern of negativity, they will always find a way to make any and every situation negative. Anytime they have a problem in their lives, instead of dealing with it rationally and productively, they like to wallow in it. This is because theylike playing the role of a victim. They are completely fixated on drama, doom and gloom.
And energy vampires like to bring others over to their way of thinking. Just like a vampire likes to convert people to their way of living because of their loneliness and need for companionship, negative people (energy vampires) like to convert others to feel the same way they do for the same reasons. Remember the old saying; misery likes company.
So how do you know if these vamps are in your life? Your energy vampires are the people you dread being near. You avoid situations as much as possible where you might see or have to interact with them. If you are forced to be in their company, you prepare yourself emotionally. They are the people who, when you see them calling your phone, you either roll your eyes dreading the phone call or you simply send them to voicemail immediately! You just can’t find the strength to talk with them. You know that your interaction with this person will cause your positive energy to be sucked away. Then you are left feeling lousy, exhausted, and out of sorts for the rest of the day.
Energy vampire stake your positive energy and use it for their own survival. They lower your energy vibration so you begin feeling what they feel all the time; ashamed, angry, sad, frustrated, etc. But, when you think about it, you know before you had contact with them, you were feeling happy and positive. The light bulb comes on; you’ve just been attacked by an energy vampire.
So what can you do? First, figure out who they are. You can do that by making a list of all the people in your life. Start with the people you deal with on a daily basis, then weekly and finally less often. Next to their name add a word for how they make you feel when you interact with them. Do they make you feel happy and positive? Does the interaction cause no change in your mood? Or do they leave you drained and feeling horrible? You might choose to use words like “positive”, “neutral” and “drained” to write next to their names.
Once you have completed your list, look it over. Notice all the people you marked “drained”. These, are no doubt, your energy vampires!
So now what?
Well, best case is that you have the ability to cut this person out of your life completely. Is this person someone you don’t have to deal with anymore like an acquaintance or co-worker that you can avoid? If that’s the case, completely disconnect yourself from this person. Avoid them at all costs. Problem solved!
But, what if this person is someone you really have little to no choice but to deal with? Your boss (and you don’t want to leave your job), a family member? One option you have is cut back on the amount of time you spend with them; especially one-on-one contact which is most draining. Although, you will not be able to cut them completely out of your life you can certainly choose to limit the time you spend with them. Remember, we ultimately have control over our lives and who we allow in to it.
Most importantly, learn how to shield yourself from these energy vamps! Prepare yourself. Know that when you see them, it will most likely be a negative experience. They are going to say something negative to you or about you. It’s what they always seem to do. Sometimes making a joke about what they say when they say it will help the negativity to bounce off of you. Keep strong, use humor and just don’t let them get to you.
You can also protect yourself from these vampires by picturing white or gold, positive light surrounding you before you see this person. Keep that light around you anytime you are in a situation where you usually see your vampire. To create this light, envision it surrounding you from your head to your feet. The protection will then be there. If you feel inclined, you may also ask Archangel Michael to protect you throughout your day and keep the energy vamps away from your energy.
Another situation many people experience is the energy vampire from their past. Someone you are no longer communicating with in the present. However, they have managed to link themselves to you through what is called an etheric cord.
An etheric cord is and energetic connection that forms between two people. The cord can become negative when the relationship is created from a fear-based emotion such as loneliness, anger, co-dependency, abuse, addiction, lack of forgiveness, or other negative emotions. Cords often develop after break-ups and divorces, but also other life changing events. These people are still managing to drain you even though you are no longer in contact with them. They are still connected energetically and emotionally and they are still using your energy for survival.
In the case of etheric cord attachment, a chakra balancing and etheric cord severing is necessary to rebalance your energy and to release the cord permanently. This treatment will release dysfunctional aspects of the past relationship.
Besides the negative people who are Energy Vampires, there are others as well. Here are some typical types of Energy Vampires as written by Theresa J. Borchard, author of the article, “Five Emotional Vampires and How to Combat Them”:
Vampire 1: The Narcissist
This vampire is grandiose, self-important, attention hogging, and hungry for admiration. She is often charming and intelligent–until her guru status is threatened.
Self-defense tips: Enjoy her good qualities, but keep your expectations realistic: Because her motto is “me-first,” getting angry or stating your needs won’t phase her. To get her cooperation, show how your request satisfies her self-interest.
Vampire 2: The Victim.
This vampire thinks the world is against him, and demands that others rescue him.
Self-defense tips: Don’t be his therapist, and don’t tell him to buck up. Limit your interactions, and don’t get involved in his self-pity.
Vampire 3: The Controller.
This vampire has an opinion about everything, thinks he knows what’s best for you, has a rigid sense of right and wrong, and needs to dominate.
Self-defense tips: Speak up and be confident. Don’t get caught up in bickering over the small stuff. Assert your needs, and then agree to disagree.
Vampire 4: The Criticizer.
This vampire feels qualified to judge you, belittle you, and bolster her own ego by making you feel small and ashamed.
Self-defense tips: Don’t take what she says personally. Address a misplaced criticism directly. Don’t get defensive. Express appreciation for what’s useful. Bounce back with a massive dose of loving-kindness.
Vampire 5: The Splitter.
This vampire may treat you like his BFF one day, and then mercilessly attack you the next day when he feels wronged. He is often a threatening rageaholic who revels in keeping others on an emotional rollercoaster.
Self-defense tips: Establish boundaries and be solution-oriented. Avoid skirmishes, refuse to take sides, and avoid eye contact when he’s raging at you. Visualize a protective shield around you when you’re being emotionally attacked.
Whether the vampire is in your life presently or still attacking from a distance, they do not have the right to be in control of your life! As energetic beings, we decide who we allow into our lives and how we allow them to affect us. We can cut their energy supply off and they will be forced to find energy elsewhere or, better yet, look inside themselves to find the answer to their neediness and unhappiness. What matters most is each one of us as a part of the beautiful universe live our lives in peace and to choose who and when we give of our energy.
Posted with permission by Von Goodwin
Living the Question Productions
https://vongoodwin.com/